It doesn’t take a brain surgeon to imagine how easily heavy drinking can negatively impact a marriage, but you might be surprised to learn that heavy drinking doesn’t always lead a couple toward divorce papers.
As it turns out, it has everything to do with who’s doing the drinking, and how much. If only one partner is a heavy drinker and the other isn’t, divorce is statistically likely. But if both are heavy drinkers they have no higher likelihood of separation than a couple where neither partner drinks heavily.
A Good Education (if You’re a Woman)
Do marriages really fail more often when a woman’s level of education exceeds that of her husband? After studying the success rates of U.S. marriages from 1950-2009 researchers found that until the 90’s they actually did. By that point, women had been out-graduating men in college for almost a decade, a trend which continues today.
Beginning in the Grunge Era, stubborn males actually began to accept the inevitability of this intellectual role reversal. These findings are encouraging because they help to squelch the notion advocated by some alarmists that the widening education gap between men and women encourages marital instability.
Facebook / Twitter / Snapchat
Apparently, increasing your use of Facebook and/or Twitter does not increase the stability of your intimate relationships, in fact, it’s quite the opposite. The more Twitter or Facebook posts you make, the more likely you are to experience conflict related to those posts. These unfortunate results appear consistently, regardless of how long you and your partner have been together or how recently you opened your social media account.
And while a study has yet to be performed, it’s hard to imagine an app like Snapchat, where Videos, pics, and text all self-destruct after being seen like a note to Inspector Gadget, as anything other than prone to misuse. However, the saving grace of Snapchat may indeed lie in its ability to cover the digital trail of promiscuity that other applications leave in their wake.
It has long been held as common knowledge that the birth of a daughter spells divorce for a married heterosexual couple more often than that of a son.
Many possible reasons for this have been posited over the years. Some have claimed that because fathers desire boys more than girls they are more likely to stick around in relationship where they get what they want. Other, Jungian thinkers, point to the Electra Complex where a girls psycho sexual competition with the mother nurtures the conditions required for divorce.
Researchers at Duke University have thrown a wrench into such neatly wrapped explanations with their recent findings. What they discovered is that girls may be hardier than boys, both inside and outside the womb, and that this hardiness may help them survive a stressful pregnancy involving troubled parents better than boy babies. This alternative theory would help explain why a slightly higher percentage of girls are effected by parental divorce than boys.
And the more you look at it the worse it gets. Men encounter serious illness more often than women and tend to die at younger ages, meaning that in return for their faithful marriage vows women end up either widowed, or abandoned in ill health, much more often than their fickle male counterparts.
Divorce sucks, but like it or not many of us end up going through it at some point in our lives. It can be hard to think clearly through your emotions and make the right decisions during separation, but it is vital to your future well-being to do so. The people at Evans & Petree PC can help you traverse this difficult period and get you to the other side in one piece, so that you can begin to rebuild and enjoy your life once more.